POST CHRISTMAS MESS

Here we are.  Monday again.  Not just any Monday, the Monday after Christmas.  Our family had our last Christmas gathering over the weekend.  My sister and her husband will head back south tomorrow morning.

I look through the house I’ve been wanting – no, needing – to get organized and I find it a disheveled mess.  The holidays are so hectic we normally aren’t able to keep up.  Then throw fibro/chronic fatigue in there and you find yourself doing just enough to survive.

My fake pre-lit tree did get put up but remained undecorated.  Yes, we had a bare tree this year – call the North Pole on me.  That has to be a huge tradition violation.

But with a 17 month old in the house it wouldn’t have been decorated for long anyway – at least the lower half.

We concentrated on the birth of the Savior and time together as a family – watched some movies and ate too much.

Next year will be better!  I’m adapting fly lady’s holiday control journal to work for those of us with FM/CFS.  But for now I’m left with this year’s mess.

So we go back to keeping the P.A.C.E.Keep up theP.A.C.E.

I think the most important thing to remember is to get back to healthy eating and staying hydrated.  Try to keep up with the daily chores and when energy and pain levels allow spend a few minutes on the mess.  If you let the daily chores go so you can do the Christmas undecorating your daily routine will suffer and you’ll get all out of sorts.  It will add to the stress and thereby increase your pain.

So turn the Christmas music on if you need it and watch a few more classic movies.  Whatever you need to extend the holidays until you can get the undecorating finished!

Stay Well! ~ Live Joyfully

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Let’s go back to the grocery store, but this time we’ll take coupons!

Last Monday I shared my secret tool for making grocery shopping easier: my list according to aisle, etc. You can go grab it if you haven’t yet.
Today I thought I’d share my tools for saving money with groceries.

coupons
When you have FM/CFS don’t have the time or energy to clip a ton of coupons and get them all nice and neat in a huge organizer.

To make it easier, but still save money; simply take the packet of coupons when you receive them and write the date on the top of the front page. Packets come from smartsource and red plum. Scan through the coupons to see when they expire and write the expiration date that is the furthest away on the front of the packet. You can then keep these packets in a pile or use a binder with page protector sheets and slide them in there until needed.

Now the good part! If you haven’t heard of the website www.couponmom.com, you really need to check it out. It’s free!  Here’s how it works; you click on the grocery store that you normally shop at and they’ve already compiled a list of the sale items and the coupons that correspond with the sale. The site tells you the coupon packet where you’ll find your needed coupon. There is a good introduction video on the site that gives you the low down

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So now you have your list and you have your corresponding coupon book and now you just cut the coupons you need. Periodically go through your binder or pile (whichever you decided to use) and once you get to the expiration date that was written on the front of the coupon packet you simply throw the packet away.

No huge binder to carry to the store. No clipping coupons you’ll never use.

It saves a lot of time and work!

I also use an app called CouponKeeper. It uses your phone to scan the barcode on the coupon and then stores it. If you’re in need of something that isn’t for sale or listed at couponmom you can look it up on this app and it will tell you which coupon packet has a coupon for your needed item. It stores the coupons with the information of the packet the same way couponmom does. It lists if the packet is smartsource or red plum and what date you received the coupon in the mail.

So there you have it! A very simple way to save some money!

Stay Well! ~ Live Joyfully!

Let’s Go Grocery Shopping!

Come on! Let’s go grocery shopping together!
Believe it or not – that phrase no longer blankets me with dreadful anticipation.
I mentioned how my husband came up with the acronym P.A.C.E. (Prioritize Activities to Conserve Energy). I decided it was time to conserve some energy in one of my most required, but hated, chores. Grocery Shopping.

Photo Credit: TheeErin via Compfight cc

Photo Credit: TheeErin via Compfight cc

It’s one of those necessary evils; but to someone with FM/CFS it can seem like an insurmountable challenge. By the time you’ve gathered your thoughts, decided what you want or need to buy, made a list, and cut any coupons, you’re way too tired to go to the store. Then once you get there you have to keep scanning your chicken scratch of a list that isn’t in any sort of order. The noise and activity happening around you can send your thoughts spinning; making you forget the two things you didn’t write down because you just knew you’d remember them.
I’ve tried different things throughout the past few years; switching up the routine by planning one day shopping the next. I’ve even purchased the preprinted shopping lists, but they didn’t have all the things I like to keep on hand.
I finally decided to break the whole food gathering process down into parts and see how I could make this reoccurring nightmare a bit easier.
A few weeks ago I made a spread sheet on excel; listing the items we purchase most often under the aisle number I believed they were in at the grocery store. Each time I went to the store I’d revise my list. I moved items around until I had them all under the right aisle. Then I arranged the list in the order I walk through the store. I normally start at the back in the dairy department and end the trip with produce in the front.
I printed a stack of these lists and have them hanging on a clipboard in my pantry. It works great when I’m in the haze of fibro fog; serving as an easy check off guide for things we need. I take the list, scan the pantry and check off anything needed there; then the bathroom supplies, laundry supplies and kitchen supplies. It takes the memory work out of the process on the days when my brain has decided to take a vacation.
I have a small coupon organizer that’s also arranged by aisle number. That way I can just grab the few coupons for that aisle as I walk down. (Next week I’ll share my easy couponing method.)
There are items on this list that assure we can make a few quick meals on days I have no energy or time. Things like spaghetti, grilled cheese, chicken stir fry, soups, etc.; also a number of spaces to add things that might be on sale that week or we need for a special meal.
I’m sharing this spread sheet with you because it’s helped me so much. Grab it and change it up to match your store and the items you like to have on hand! I hope it takes some stress off your shoulders as you handle your shopping!

Here it is!  shopping list
What are your shopping secrets? I’d love to hear them. Sharing our best ideas with each other is what helps our FM/CFS community grow stronger and lead our best lives possible!
Stay Well ~ Live Joyfully

Become a critically-minded, well-educated patient

Where do you get your information about your illness? What resources have you used? Internet? Books? Medical journals? Now, where do they get their information? The sea of resources we have available to us can be quite overwhelming. It’s imperative that you learn how to be a bit critical and well-educated as you search for knowledge.
BOOKS & ARTICLES
Some of us go the old fashioned route of paper and bindings. Do a little research on the author. Are they known for the products they’re trying to sell or are they a noted doctor in the field of fibromyalgia or pain management? Proceed with caution when reading medical books from an author who has a list of products to sell under their name.
INTERNET SEARCHES
Have you heard of google scholar? I might have been living under a rock all these years because I had never heard of it until this week. If you google “google scholar” you are taken to a search engine that is simply research oriented. You can then search for “fibromyalgia studies” or anything you desire. You can even get as specific as you want such as “fibromyalgia studies using ribose”. You’ll see a brief description of the article as well as the date it was written. Watch for recent studies; at least in the past five years.
Watch the suffix of the website. Anything that is .edu is from an educational organization like a school or university and you can normally look at those as reliable sources. The .gov sites are federal, state or local government sites and are highly regulated. Non-profit organizations are .org and are usually reputable. The .com’s are commercial sites and can include people trying to sell products; be skeptical when looking at these. (Keep in mind that these are just generalities. For instance the Mayo Clinic is highly reliable but is a .com)
 RESEARCH STUDIES
The first thing to find out is who was studied. Did they use the current diagnosing criteria when choosing their participants? If they didn’t use up to date standards they aren’t going to be getting beneficial results. You also have to be sure they have a control group that excluded patients with similar illnesses or illnesses that have similar symptoms. For instance, if they are trying to study the benefits of yoga on fibromyalgia patients they may want to exclude people with lupus and rheumatoid arthritis. They would also want to exclude people who are currently under any type of litigation that concerns their illness. Those individuals could be biased in their disclosure of how the treatment affected them.
How many people participated in the study? You’re sure to have a more accurate study by having more participants. Just including ten people isn’t going to be as good as a study that included 4,000.
Where did they go to recruit participants? If it was a pain clinic that provided all the participants; their results may be skewed because they’re studying only those at the worst end of the spectrum; as opposed to those that are out functioning at a higher rate, such as holding down full time jobs etc.
Who were the researchers? Most researchers have a bias regarding what they expect to find. If I think Tai Chi has benefits for fibro patients I’m going into my research study trying to prove that I’m right. Look for well-known researchers in regard to pain and pain management. Those individuals that have dedicated their careers to helping people in pain are more likely to hold their commitment to sincerely help people above their desire to be right.
Who funded the study? Most medication studies are funded by pharmaceutical companies. They’re in it for the money. They are conducting the study for the sheer purpose of getting their drugs on the market.
Was the study double-blind placebo controlled? A double blind study is where neither the person administering the medication or the patient knows if they were given the placebo or the actual medication. Sometimes this is very hard to accomplish. Certain drugs can have such prominent side effects that the patient becomes pretty certain they were given the actual medication.
Has the study been replicated? The only clear way to know if a certain study showed beneficial results is if you are able to replicate it. Medical journals are quick to publish the newest, greatest findings in medicine. The only problem with that is they rarely publish studies where more researchers try to replicate a particular study and are not able to come up with the same findings.
PLACEBO AFFECT
I’m sure you’re aware of placebos being used in research studies. That’s where they may give a certain drug to half of the participants and the other half would basically be given a sugar pill. In order for a drug company to claim that a drug is affective for a certain disease it simply has to work better than the placebo on the tested individuals. In general 35% of individuals will show positive results during a study even though they were simply given the placebo and were never given actual medication. Therefore, the placebo affect is generally 35% or so of those studied. As an example, let’s say after a research study has laid out all their results, 32% of those given the placebo felt better; compared to 41% of those that were actually given the drug. The drug company can now promote the drug to the FDA as beneficial to patients with that illness. That could actually mean that only 9% showed benefits from the drug since 32% felt better by simply thinking they had ingested the medication.
There are actually other placebo studies that don’t use medications. They have done studies on the effects of acupuncture on individuals and had a control group that actually had a placebo treatment. The tubes containing the needles simply suctioned cupped to the participants skin without the needle penetrating. Believe it or not there have also been placebo surgeries. For instance, while studying the benefits of a certain surgery on carpal tunnel they may have volunteers that don’t know if they are actually having the surgery or not. Those in the placebo group simply receive an incision that mimics that of the actual surgery. They get their stitches and are sent home thinking they had surgery.
BEWARE OF LABELS
A study or information source can use the word “significant” very loosely. It can simply mean important or it can mean the effect of a certain treatment was merely above 0. Look for resources that actually disclose a percentage rate. If they don’t, that could mean their results were beneficial in only .05% of those studied and with those findings they label it as a significant benefit.
So I hope this helps you become a more critical, well-educated patient. After all, the most important advocate for your health should be you!

Stay Well! ~ Live Joyfully!

Setting The P.A.C.E. With Housework

I feel like that song;  Just Another Manic Monday – these are the days when you wish your bed was already made!

I just can’t take the chaos anymore!  My house is so messy and disorganized.  We moved into a house half the size of our last one when I quit my job, and we did get rid of quite a bit.  However, when we moved in I wasn’t able to get things unpacked and organized in a good working manner.

Being in a messy, cluttered home can actually make Fibromyalgia/Chronic Fatigue worse.  The time it takes to locate things uses a lot of energy and that’s a very precious commodity.  On days when brain fog is at its worst, the mess just causes an incredible amount of confusion and frustration in the mind.  Honestly, it’s impossible to do anything we enjoy like crafting, sewing, etc., when we have to clear off two layers of junk piled on top of the kitchen table before we can start.

Getting organized and getting systems in place that work can mean a much happier life!

I love flylady.net; her system is excellent.   I’ve tried to adapt a few things of hers like her Holiday Control Journal – you might want to check it out – it’s a great way to help get the holidays in place without a last minute rush.  But I have to tell you I can’t keep up with her. There are a few other websites like iheartorganizing.blogspot.com that I love to follow that have great tips and strategies for cleaning and organizing.  I do recommend them and think they have so much to offer by way of tips and systems that work.  The biggest problem I found with all these sights is what they list to do in a day or over the course of one month; it isn’t something my body is going to allow me to do.  I have to attack this task in a much different manner.

Keep up theP.A.C.E.

My husband came up with this little acronym – P.A.C.E. ~ Prioritize Activities to Conserve Energy.  It’s become my new motto.  I think it can easily be applied to housekeeping too!  When we only have so much energy in our day we have to decide what things are most important.

I’ve had to lower my standards on how I’d like the house to be.  I’m trying to be ok with that, but it can still be hard.  I really like things perfectly organized and pretty!  Even with lowering my standards a bit I still don’t have the house working in a way that’s right for me.

I’ve decided to push our house toward a minimalist lifestyle.  I know a lot out there on minimalism makes it seem almost like a cult – but don’t worry, I didn’t drink any Kool-Aid.  I can just appreciate the fact that having less “stuff” to shift around, organize and clean leaves you more time for actual living in your house.  After you cut through all the clutter and pare down to the items you love, you actually set yourself up for a more fulfilling life.

It’s been a lot to consider and to be honest I had no clue where to start.  I finally ended up picking the smallest area of our home; the linen closet.  I thought if I started small it would give me some quick gratification and get some momentum going to take on larger areas.  I jumped in and was actually able to finish the job in one day.  I took my husband’s advice and worked for about 10 minutes then took about 10 minutes to rest.   I threw out a bunch of stuff we don’t need and don’t use.

At this point of the game I’m not focused on making things pretty; yet.  That will come!  But first I need to get things organized and working for our family.

cleaned linen closet

I think the linen closet was a huge success and everything is organized, containerized and labeled.

Tell me some tricks and tips you have for keeping your house in order!  Next Monday we can talk a bit about our kitchen and menu planning!

Fibromyalgia’s Ugly Step-Sisters

In case you haven’t met them yet, or you have and didn’t know they were part of the family; I thought I’d take a moment to introduce you.

1.  Foggy Fran

–          She’s the one that interrupts you’re thoughts.  When you’re in mid-sentence she’s going to slide into the conversation and make you draw a blank.  While focused on a task she’s Foggy Frangoing to jump in and grab your train of thought and run away with it.  We aren’t positive where she comes from.  She may be a result of the pain – you know, it’s hard to focus on a conversation if someone is stabbing you in the thigh with a knife.  Or maybe she comes around after a few of the other girls (depression and fatigue) have been visiting for a while.

2.  Fiona Fatigue

–          Oh Fiona.  I think I dislike her most of all.  Before getting out of bed in the morning she’s there; grabbing your energy supply and running off like a toddler.   She jumps up for a piggy-back ride so as you walk through the day you’re carrying her weight as well.  Each step twice as difficult as when you were healthy.  By lunch time the added weight has you feeling like quite a zombie, dragging along as you walk.  Sometimes she ties anchors to your arms and legs and leaves you immobile.  Then the catch 22 begins; too tired to move = not being able to move = stopping you from exercising your muscles which would give you more energy.  She often leaves you with a sore throat, headache or other illness that comes back time and again.  Horrible child that Fiona is!

3.  Isabelle Insomnia

–          As a child we were scared of the boogie man living under our bed.  Well, Isabelle stays there.  She runs in and hides before you get under the covers with the shear goal of keeping you awake all night.   She’s very aware of your sleep cycle; all 5 stages and the 90 minutes it takes to run through its course to get you to a restful, restorative sleep.  While you’re in stage one your muscles and brain are still active.  In stage two your muscles are supposed to relax and only your brain keeps going.  That’s when she lets all the bed bugs loose to crawl up and down your legs so that you can’t stay still.  Once stage three hits, you should be experiencing gentle waves taking you deeper into sleep.  But she’s there.  Whispering in your ear to keep your mind active and tapping on your arms and legs to keep your muscles alert.  If you even make it to the restorative stage five where you can dream, your body can repair tissue and illness damage, and your body releases serotonin to decrease pain; she won’t let you linger there long.  She gets vicious and starts to punch you in the arm and talk out loud until she has you fully awake.  She’s pure meanness.

4.  IBS Iris

–          She’s the potty talker of the group.  Test after test will prove there is nothing wrong with your intestinal tract.  She, however, she sits with her voodoo doll of you and squeezes your stomach to cause you pain.  She will constipate you one day and make you run like the wind to the bathroom the next.  She keeps you bloated and irritated.  You don’t tend to talk about her much; we like to keep her hidden from everyone we know.

5.  Tonya TMD

–          She has a vice grip, this one.  Tightens the joints of your jaw, neck and facial muscles.  She is so frustrating.  The thought of her makes you grind your teeth.  She doesn’t do much else; but she’s competent at her job!

6.  Paula Painful Bladder

–          Iris’ twin.   Potty talker.  She’s the one that makes you feel like you have to pee even though you just did, and causes pain and irritation in your plumbing.  She usually wakes you during the night, stepping in on Isabelle’s territory.

7.  Dana Depression

–           She’s always there.  Sometimes in the background.  Sometimes making a grand appearance.  She gets in your head to remind you of the life you once lived and all the things you’re missing out on.  Her happiest days are when she can get you to stay in bed and talk about all things gloom and doom.  If you try to tell her of all the things you can still do to have a happy, productive life, she goes nuts screaming at the top of her lungs.  Reminding you of all the would have/could have/should haves of a healthy life gone sour.

There you have it.  There are a few other cousins in the bunch; but these seven tend to stand out above the rest.  The hardest job you’ll ever have is keeping them in control!  Praying you have the strength to contain them!

Stay Well ~ Live Joyfully!

The White Powder I Have To Have

$30.  That was the cost for my month’s supply.  Each hit is 5 grams of white powder.

I’ve been on the white powdery happiness before.  It helps.  I don’t know why I stopped.

The past two weeks my brain has been on vacation.  I haven’t been able to finish sentences or even come up with simple words in conversation.

I needed it.

Each hit brings back some clarity to my brain.  It’s like you’ve been looking through a window with dog nose smudges and sticky baby hand prints.  The powder mixes in your system and starts to run through your veins and it’s like you’ve grabbed a rag and Windex and the window becomes clear again.

I was holding back from making the purchase.  Trying to justify the price.

I came home Wednesday and my supply was on the counter.  My husband had busted through my inability to make the purchase on my own.  He needed me to have it.

It had been a long time since my last hit.  I took the scoop and slowly poured the 5 grams into my glass.  Stirring until it was completely dissolved.  I didn’t feel much.

Later that day I repeated my consumption.  A second dose.  A bit of clarity, a bit of energy.

I spread out three scoops per day through the course of Thursday and Friday.  Each hit increasing my mental clarity and energy.

There have been two so far today.  I feel like I’m almost human again.  Less like a wet rag and more like a productive person.

I don’t know why I stopped before.  The money I guess.  It adds up.  But what value can you put on a functioning brain and energy your body can’t produce on its own.  Once I feel half human again I’ll cut back to twice a day.  It doesn’t take me back to before I became ill, but it helps.

My drug of choice – D-ribose.  A white, sweet tasting powder that you can mix in juice or any drink.  It’s actually a form of sugar that your cells use for energy.  It’s amazing for fibro fog and CFS.  It’s marketed for exercise recovery and support.  Isn’t that what CFS feels like.  You’ve just ran a marathon but you didn’t.  ribose

I’m hooked.  I have to add this to my daily regime and keep it there.  Why stop a good thing?  I recommend you ask your doctor if you can give it a try; be sure he approves first.  It’s available at most vitamin stores.  You need to let it build in your system for a week or so.  Give it time. See if it’s right for you!

Stay Well, Live Joyfully!